I have not read all the replies to this post. I know what I am about to say will get some women upset its my true opinion. I believe that Mothers and daughters can’t get along. I have seen many ‘good’ mothers with ‘good’ daughters yet they fight like wild cats and then many times the daughter go’s wayward as soon as she is older enough. I believe that she needs a father figure. ONLYCURIOUS does have a husband but he seems not to be a father figure and she has confirmed that he spends too much time at his work and so seems not to be home as much as he NEEDS to be. Where there is no strong father figure, a Son seems to cope with just a mother better then a daughter does with just a mother.
What ONLYCURIOUS needs to do is to talk to her husband and get him more involved with the daughter, more involved with the family then just his work, have a heart to heart talk with her, use some father authority and she will response. Many women these days are conditioned to believe that Super Mums exists, and they do not need men, men are just financial providers. There is no such thing as a Super Mum, they may raise children on their own but with a good and strong father figure, a better and stronger family will result. Sadly some men are also conditioned to believe that they are not needed at home, its OK just to have a good paying job and leave ALL the child rearing to the Mother.
Sorry if I upset some of you women on this Board, but its my true opinion, and I live by it, I have 2 step daughters, 17 & 18, both pretty and I involved myself with ALL their issues, for their Sake.